Healing the Pattern of Witholding Love

Withholding love from ourselves and others is the mind's way of separating itself from Spirit.

The mind uses this coping method to protect itself, or to get what it thinks it wants through patterns of manipulation and punishment, which at the root is just the mind's desire for attention and to be right.

Withholding love is a survival-based approach that is unnatural to our Spirit.

That's why if you've ever had a friend, family member or partner that does this, it can feel even more excruciating than verbal or even physical abuse.

The reason why it feels so unnatural is because it stems from the mind choosing fear over love.

Fear is an illusion created by the mind to keep itself structured, organized and protected.

Withholding love is one of the biggest challenges when it comes to trying to create and maintain a healthy relationship with ourselves and others, because it directly touches on most people's biggest fears—guilt, shame, unworthiness, failure, and rejection.

Love is our natural state. Love never withholds anything from itself. EVER.

Kindness, compassion, care, open communication, warmth, support, and connection are not designed to be conditional things we have to 'earn' from ourselves or our loved ones. If they are being withheld, it could be time to reassess if we desire to continue experiencing this kind of behavior (whether its coming from our mind or from those around us.)

The pattern of withholding love can be resolved when we and those around us allow ourselves to fully be honest with what we truly desire, and express it openly rather than hide or keep things bottled up inside.

When it comes to a relationship with a love one, we can even go further and make it clear that the relationship will have to end in its current format, if they don't start honoring, respecting and communicating with you from a place of love and compassion.

Withholding love cannot continue forward into the new heart-centered Earth we are co-creating.

Where there is love, life flourishes. And EVERYONE deserves to live and enjoy life to the fullest.

With all my heart,
Emmanuel